Forgiveness, who knew?

Ah, the joys of self-reflection.
I have never shy ed away from constantly reflecting about myself, my personality, the way that I interact with others. One of my bosses at my previous job said to me, "I have never met someone who took personal responsibility for decisions that they made like you have." He said, "Most of the people I know constantly blame someone else." I believe in self-reflection, but here is a dilemma, what to do when I am the only one admitting fault? This will not stop me from admitting fault, but I have been confronted with more and more situations, where I am told, "Ya, you're right, it is your fault." I was labeled a scape goat at my previous job, because I made myself vulnerable with people and because of evil, some exploited that vulnerability for their own benefit. People that do that end up never being able to truly live, because they find fault in everyone but themselves, always blaming others. (In my own experience, the church desperately needs to forgive, not necessarily forget, but forgive and become an inclusive community, in the midst of an exclusive world.)
In most human interactions there is this dilemma, between offending and being the offender, Jesus even spoke of it a few times. In the U.S. I think that we stop talking with people, or we are never close to those whom we have found fault, but this separates us from the midst of community. There will always be shortfalls, dilemma's, and outright "sins" committed against one another. How we handle the results of these "sins" will determine what is inside of us.
Initially in my life, I believe that God showed me to "repent" as an individual, to "own" the destructive pattern of my own sinful existence, not to hide from it, but give to God the "evil" and the "good" which lay inside me. Through this experience I was allowed to further understand that there were other factors, which contributed to the dynamic of sin, which came from "outside" of my personal nature, contained within the world. Dismantling our presuppositions about what we think everything should be or should look like, allows a greater freedom to accept shortcomings and failures in ourselves and others.
When I first told someone that I was a Christian they said, "You people are the losers of the world!" I thought to myself, I can tell working here is going to be easy. ;) Living in the midst of a community where we are given a language to communicate and articulate, is what living the gospel is about. This would have made it easier to face the difficult situations. The gospel is a message of "good news", but communicating with each other without being vulnerable, I believe is impossible. Anyways, food for thought?